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It's OK to Be Friends, But Not to Date

I was born in 1990 and raised in northwest Florida. I am a white female.

My first encounter with racism was in middle school when a black boy in my class made it known at school that he "liked me." I liked him too and would kind of flirt with him at school. Parents from the school contacted my parents who immediately had a serious talk with me about the fact that it was OK to be friends with this boy, but not to "date" him (whatever "dating" meant in middle school). I was very shocked by this because up until this point my parents and family had never talked about race in any way -- either bad or good. They have friends that are different races and I would not consider them "racist," but from that point on, I knew where they stood on the issue of dating outside of our race. I have only ever had white boyfriends.